Why is it that guys keep trying to find a way to a girl's 'treasure island' even after she bluntly refuse him touching her hands talk more of her intimate body parts. Do you guys really think a girl has fishbrain? I have come to realise that most men usually take a lady's 'no' for a 'yes' and never for one day take her 'yes' for a 'no', So sad.
I talked to a male buddy of mine over this issue last night for over an hour on phone and I just couldn't accept all his views. So please y'all should please take your time and give me your take on this.
I feel a lady who is bold enough to say a NO to a man's sexual advances, really do mean it! Stop 'trying your luck' on her each time she is around. I see even a wrapping of the hands around a woman's waist when she doesn't want/like you holding her as RAPE.
Chairman Duru, you have to be the first to answer this question because you are a game topper in women affairs *winks*
Men are conditioned to chase, and may therefore feel they can be forward in their approach even when told no. It's almost as if we are forbidden fruit. Either way, as an advocate for victims/survivors of domestic violence, I believe that no means no unequivocally. It's sad that many still don't understand such a simple word. Hugs...and great topic! Ro www.intheknowwithro.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteAww.. where are all them chilSd of the Most High, you need to come read this awesome comment. Thanks so much for taking time to leave your take on this RO.. I gladly *sideeyesatDuru* give you a warm hug in return..
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"I see even a wrapping of the hands around a woman's waist when she doesn't want/like you holding her as RAPE."
Rape ko.. Rape ni?! No jo! It is not rape anything.. It Eez neFer that deep niko... So first off.. lemme correct something oh! aYam a woman wrapper.. But not a Casanova (at least not yet).. I just think Women are the most ghen ghen creatures made. That being said.. Lemme throw back your kweshion at you.. Can men folk and ladies be truly friends without being Mushy mushy?! And then second ghen ghen kweshion... Biko Why on earth will a Girl that doesnt want to bang me come over to my house alone?! Have you thought about it Rella?! I mean many ladies come over to a guys house wearing jeans and Tight and when the guys starts to touch them they go all I said No! And then i be like ehnn! WaRRRapin?! Did they tell you that it is Engine oil and Aluminium that aYam made off?! Dont you know I have erections.. Flesh and Blood.
Rape is wrong in all entirety.. But then women should learn not to only say No.. But Mean No as well.. You cannot be saying No and wearing Push up Bras to come see me late in the evening when i am alone.
P.S: Just so this playful comment is not misunderstood.. I do not in any way support disrespecting of women folks.. But my simple point is.. Many ladies Say No but yet still lead men on.. And when the guy attempts to go all touching BoRRy on them.. They call him a pervert... and I am like Huh?! Really?! To me yeah.. Thats how it is meant to be.. Men wanting women cause in a woman lies a part of every man.. Remember the Rib?! Aight i have top Run.. Duty calls.. Oshey Turn uP! Please Reply oh!!! :) I beg you in the name of Nokia.
Sweet first, thanks for your comment, but me I don't follow your talk.. you see why I can never come and see you or any other guy from now on... Y'all feel that a girl who leaves her mother's house to come and see you at your house wearing pushup and skinnies is dying to have sex. NO!!! Not true, what happens to you taking her NO for a no.. don't think she just want to 'style' and make you beg for it biko, when some girls e.g Rella *yels* says no, she means it till tomorrow comes. And back to your first question, yes, men and women can be friends without all dem mushy mushy you hear. I am speaking from experience and I guess you too is speaking from same. Okay I know nothing will change your mind so lemme leave you.. #flipsweavesandwalksaway
ReplyDeleteMost guy don't understand that no is no... Just like week a guy almost took advantage of my neighbour and his line of defence was that he was just testing her...
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You can imagine his guts.. testing fire. Well he better go test a transformer next time.. hehe.
DeleteNow this is funny o..... I'm laughing here like kilode! Duru and Rella.... Abeg take am easy ooo. But then I've nothing to say than plz guys, understand the word NO and stop pushing further biko.
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Lolz.. don't take me and that cray man too serious biko.. we're just innocently sharing our views.. Btw thanks for sharing yours too.
DeleteLol. Hi Rella, good to have you back. See this matter ehn, I don't want to talk.
ReplyDeleteMissed you, sweetie.
Lolz.. Please talk nau.
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ReplyDeleteHad same conversation too with a guy and he said that before they came to the conclusion of taking a girls Yes for No is when it happened a number of times. So here we go the sin of others have fallen on so many. It might take the guys to understand the word NO from a lady especially when he has experienced a NO YES situation, so the only way I think we can teach them is by saying NO and meaning it and the guys will get used to it.
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Right on point. Saying no and sticking to it is the only way to teach them we mean No. It's a pleasure having you here. Thanks!
DeleteIts only a Pervert that would not take no for an answer. A real man would respect everything abt a woman including her words. However, saying no is not enough, one has to show that they really mean it.
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